Femme is an inherently queer identity that allows those who take on this identity to reclaim the power of femininity from the overarching patriarchal ideology that equates “feminine” with “weakness”. However, femme-ness is still entrenched in patriarchal standards by existing in this world, and therefore at times still holds femmes who present the ideal feminine self to a higher regard. This ideal feminine exists in a capitalist, racist, heteronormative, and ableist system.
Therefore, it is important to acknowledge femmes who do not identify as women, femmes who are not cisgender, femmes who will never fit the mold of conventionally pretty, and femmes who don’t want to fit that mold anyway.
How we style ourselves, how we draw on our eyeliner or thicken our eyebrows, the style and color of our hair, the heels we tower in, the bold statements we make with our armor is for us, reclaimed by us, and a statement that femme is powerful and strong and not here for you.
So when we talk about femininity in the context of queerness it’s important that we appreciate all the different forms and bodies femme-ness is articulated in. Hell, it’s important when we talk about femininity in any context.
So be bold, be wicked, be powerful, be femme.