FEMME Identity & Accessibility

Femme is an inherently queer identity that allows those who take on this identity to reclaim the power of femininity from the overarching patriarchal ideology that equates “feminine” with “weakness”. However, femme-ness is still entrenched in patriarchal standards by existing in this world, and therefore at times still holds femmes who present the ideal feminine self to a higher regard. This ideal feminine exists in a capitalist, racist, heteronormative, and ableist system.

Therefore, it is important to acknowledge femmes who do not identify as women, femmes who are not cisgender, femmes who will never fit the mold of conventionally pretty, and femmes who don’t want to fit that mold anyway.

How we style ourselves, how we draw on our eyeliner or thicken our eyebrows, the style and color of our hair, the heels we tower in, the bold statements we make with our armor is for us, reclaimed by us, and a statement that femme is powerful and strong and not here for you.

So when we talk about femininity in the context of queerness it’s important that we appreciate all the different forms and bodies femme-ness is articulated in. Hell, it’s important when we talk about femininity in any context.

So be bold, be wicked, be powerful, be femme.

  One thought on “FEMME Identity & Accessibility

  1. madelli1999
    June 30, 2015 at 6:05 am

    Great article ! 🙂



  2. June 26, 2015 at 11:33 am

    Go for it. Be what ever you feel comfortable with.

    Liked by 1 person

  3. June 26, 2015 at 9:31 am

    Perfectly said and so well written.
    Thank you

    Liked by 1 person

  4. June 23, 2015 at 12:13 pm

    As a bald, AMAB, transgenderqueer femme, I totally relate and appreciate presenting a femininity that is not the ideal of the patriarchal cistem. In so doing, I am beginning to find my true voice and power and it is an amazing experience. I am newly out, so I am still learning how to present my femininity; still finding what works for me and allows me to feel liberated and strong. I would never “pass” as they say, and that being the case I want to give you my gratitude for hosting a space dedicated to exploring femininity in all its manifestations.

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    • June 24, 2015 at 3:51 pm

      Hi! I’m so glad that this post resonated with you! This is the type of discussion and community I’m trying to facilitate and build through FEMMEVIOLET. Thanks so much for your comment, and congrats on coming out. Your femininity is badass and beautiful, I’m sure. ❤


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